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Giving and Receiving Feedback: A Guide to Personal and Professional Growth

Author
Sadia
9/4/2025
Wellbeing

Introduction

Feedback is a fundamental part of personal and professional development. Whether it’s input from customers about a product or service, or constructive conversations between colleagues in the workplace, it plays a vital role in fostering improvement. However, how feedback is delivered can make all the difference. In this blog, we explore strategies for giving and receiving feedback effectively, ensuring it fosters development and positive change.

Why Feedback Matters

Feedback is more than criticism, it’s a tool for progress. In both personal and professional contexts, feedback enables us to recognise our strengths and identify areas for growth.

When delivered constructively, feedback can lead to improved customer service, enhanced teamwork and personal development.

Example: A customer might provide feedback such as: “I was impressed by the fast delivery of my order. However, it would have been even more helpful if the packaging had been more secure”. This not only helps the company refine its service but also highlights what has been done well.

“Feedback is the breakfast of champions” - Ken Blanchard

This powerful quote reminds us that feedback is an essential ingredient for growth and success, much like breakfast is for the start of a productive day. Champions, whether in sports, business, or personal development rely on continuous learning and improvement to excel. Feedback when given and received constructively, serves as the fuel that drives progress, enabling individuals and teams to reach their full potential.

Ask yourself, are you making feedback a part of your daily practice, like champions do?

With this mindset, let’s explore how to give feedback effectively while fostering growth and collaboration.

Key Considerations When Giving Feedback

  • Understand the Recipient’s Feelings: Before giving feedback, consider the emotional impact it might have. Recognising emotional responses allows you to approach the conversation with empathy ensuring the feedback is well received.
  • Adopt a Non-Judgemental Approach: Focus on specific behaviours or actions rather than personal traits to avoid making the recipient feel defensive or judged.
  • Choose the Right Setting: The time and setting of your feedback matter. A respectful and private environment is often best for sensitive conversations.
  • Encourage Growth and Learning: Feedback should contribute to the recipient's development, highlighting areas for improvement and offering actionable suggestions.
  • Summarise and Action Plan: Conclude with a summary of key points and an action plan to help the recipient focus on the next steps.

Example: “Hi John Doe, I really appreciate the effort you have put into this project. That said, I noticed that the reports have been submitted after the deadline a few times. Let’s meet for a coffee to discuss how we can ensure this is addressed in the future. For the next report, perhaps we can break down tasks into smaller steps to help manage time better. I believe this will allow us to meet deadlines more effectively. To summarise, we will work on improving time management for the next project and I will be happy to help with any additional support or feedback along the way.”

What is Constructive Feedback?

Constructive feedback is specific, balanced, and focused on improvement. It highlights strengths while identifying areas for development, offering clear, actionable suggestions. The goal is to support growth and create a positive learning environment.

Example of Constructive Feedback: "Your report was well-researched and provided valuable insights. To enhance clarity, consider using bullet points for key findings. This will help the audience quickly grasp important details."

What is Not Constructive Feedback?

Non-constructive feedback is vague, overly critical, or demotivating. It often focuses on faults without providing guidance for improvement.

Example of Non-Constructive Feedback: "Your report was confusing and hard to follow. It needs a lot of work."

This type of feedback does not help the recipient understand what went wrong or how to improve. Instead, effective feedback should be specific, actionable, and solution-oriented, guiding the recipient toward better outcomes.

Encouraging Ownership of Feedback

When giving feedback, empower the recipient to take ownership of their improvement. Encourage dialogue by asking open-ended questions or offering supportive suggestions.

Ask questions such as:

  • Can you think of an action that would help you improve in this area?
  • One thing you might want to consider is…
  • What can I do to help you move forward?

Example: A leader giving performance feedback to an employee asks, “What do you think went well in this project? Where do you think you could improve?” This approach encourages self-reflection and ownership of growth.

Principles of Great Feedback

  • Choose the Correct Timing: Feedback should be given at the right moment, neither too soon nor too late, to maximise impact.
  • Ask for Self-Assessment: Encourage the person to reflect on their performance before you provide feedback. This transforms the conversation into a collaborative dialogue.
  • Focus on Specific Issues: Avoid overwhelming the recipient by addressing too many points at once. Focus on one or two key areas for improvement.
  • Provide Praise Where It’s Due: Acknowledge the recipient’s strengths and achievements to create a balanced conversation.
  • Develop Action Plans: Feedback should include actionable steps for the recipient to implement and track progress.

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Receiving Feedback

Receiving feedback, especially constructive criticism, can trigger a variety of emotions. It’s important to understand and manage these responses, as individuals often progress through stages such as:

  • Denial: Rejecting the feedback.
  • Anger: Feeling frustrated or defensive.
  • Withdrawal: Distancing oneself emotionally.
  • Acceptance: Recognising the value of the feedback and taking action to improve.

Example: A team member receives constructive criticism about their communication style. At first, they feel defensive (denial), then frustrated (anger), and they avoid further discussions (withdrawal). However, after reflecting, they accept the feedback and decide to take a communication workshop to improve.

Techniques for Giving Effective Feedback

  • Ask Open-Ended Questions: Encourage reflection with questions like, "What do you think went well in this situation?"
  • Avoid Close-Ended Questions: Yes/no questions limit discussion. Instead of "Did you understand the task?" ask, "How did you approach this task?"
  • Be Mindful with 'Why': Avoid sounding accusatory. Instead of "Why didn’t you complete this task?" ask, "What challenges did you face?"
  • Reflect Back: Paraphrase to ensure clarity and show active listening.
  • Allow Time for Silence: Give the recipient space to process the feedback, encouraging thoughtful responses.

Conclusion

Feedback is an invaluable tool for personal and professional growth. Start applying these principles today, whether by giving constructive feedback to a colleague or reflecting on feedback you’ve received. By doing so, you’ll unlock new opportunities for personal and professional growth. Remember, the goal of feedback is not just to point out weaknesses but to guide each other towards becoming the best versions of ourselves.

By fostering a culture where feedback is seen as a learning opportunity rather than criticism, individuals and teams can thrive. Approach feedback with a mindset of collaboration, and you’ll see real progress in yourself and those around you.

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